For some, there is great joy in planning a momentous occasion. Then the process begins. Ideas, some lofty, some attainable, dance in our head, relentlessly. We explore every possibility and perform endless research. We plan, and plan, and plan. Along the way we want to believe we are simply developing a vision but, if we're honest, what the process gives birth to is expectation. And yet, despite our best efforts, usually life, or sometimes the forecast, invites us to shift, to flex our expectations.
With uncharacteristic springtime weather, and pre-ceremony photos set for outside, it's safe to say Ana and Drew felt a call to flex on their May wedding day. All morning they watched and waited. Moments before the main events of the day were set to unfold, the rain turned to snow, or "salt", as they called it, began to fall, and the cool winds from the lake gained speed. Yet Ana and Drew let go, joyfully meeting each other for the first time as bride and groom in the backyard garden of Ana's childhood home. They leaned into one another and held onto each other, asking for and offering what each needed. They smiled and embraced, laughed at the oddity of the situation, and joyfully accepted the unexpected. Nearby the waves of Lac La Belle rolled on, and all around them, the tulips cast their bright color, and the birds sang their happy spring tune.
Moments later friends and family gathered and looked lovingly on the couple. They popped open umbrellas, wrapped one another in shawls and jackets, and huddled near the heater Dad brought out.
This unlikely forecast continued until mid-afternoon, when for just a few moments, the snow stopped and the sun came out. Ana and Drew embraced once again, this time underneath a flowering tree, reveling in the warm air and sharing sighs of thankfulness.
Rarely is it ever what we expect. Sometimes it's better, sometimes it's harder. But it's always good because we are together. The same is true for marriage. It's not easy, but it's good because it asks so much of us. To stay at one another's side. To hug our dear ones, and be open to their support. To laugh when and where we can. To remain hand in hand in the unlikeliest of moments. To flex and seek out the sunshine, even when the skies are their grayest, until we find ourselves back under the trees.